The Rules of the New Monogamy: The Changing Face of Committed Relationships – Tammy Nelson

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More couples today than ever before are negotiating their monogamy in new and creative ways, including open marriage, polyamory, group marriages, transgender relationships, and a variety of intentional partnerships. As therapists, we need to understand these new developments, the challenges they bring, and the skills required of us to remain open and aware of our own triggers when addressing them. In this workshop, you’ll explore:

• How to help clients develop a code of integrity that will define their monogamy and develop their own unique shared definition of honesty, even if it involves a departure from traditional sexual fidelity
• How to coach clients on negotiating flexible monogamy arrangements as well as how to renegotiate a new one after infidelity

Why open marriages work for some and fail for others—and how to identify the early problem signs and help couples recover when the arrangement isn’t working

• Explore how to help clients develop a code of integrity that will define their monogamy and develop their own unique shared definition of honesty, even if it involves a departure from traditional sexual fidelity
• Explore how to coach clients on negotiating flexible monogamy arrangements as well as how to renegotiate a new one after infidelity
• Explore why open marriages work for some and fail for others—and how to identify the early problem signs and help couples recover when the arrangement isn’t working

1. Creating the New Monogamy Agreement
   1. The Explict and Implicit Agreement
   2. Renegotiating Rules of Monogamy Through Developmental Stages
   3. The Momogamy Continuum
   4. Thoughts
   5. Fantasy
   6. Desires
   7. Arousal
   8. Flirtation
   9. Emotions
   10. Action
   11. Connection
   12. Sex
   13. Love
   14. Detachment
2. The New Normal
   1. Eroticism and Companionship
   2. What Couples Want May Be Changing
3. Components of an Affair
   1. The Outside Emotional Relationship
   2. The Dishonesty
   3. The Sexual Relationship
4. Steps in Recovery
   1. Creating Understanding
   2. Renegotiate Agreements
   3. Initiate Erotic Recovery
   4. Empathy in Recovery
5. Two Elements in Couple Relationships
   1. Business of Relationship
   2. Sexual Aspects
6. Create A New Vision of The Relationship
   1. Through Exploration and Discussion with Couples
   2. Outline for Both the New Vision of the Future
   3. Creating Agreement over Accepted Behaviors