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• Archive: Mark TyrrellConversational Reframing Course for PractitionersMark Tyrrell’s Therapy SkillsPractitioners Conversational Reframing CourseFocuses upon the importance of frames and context in order to facilitate new ways forward that are all too often unconscious and sometimes overlookedTherapy techniques from Uncommon KnowledgeSet Your Clients Free From the Prison of Their Negative BeliefsTrain your brain to bring artful reframes instantly to mind, so you can help others change perspective – while avoiding the ‘arguing trap’!For a therapist, it’s agonizing to witness.There’s your client, tormenting and berating themselves.
• Round and round they talk; explaining why they feel so bad, why what happened was so dreadful, how trapped they are.You desperately want to relieve them of that burden.And of course – and this is even more frustrating – arguing with them doesn’t help at all.No matter what you say, it only seems to make them even more entrenched in their negative beliefs.
• They seem lost in the depths of their sadness, anger and regret.But there is a way to get through.Why reframing is a core skill for every practitionerEvery practitioner needs to help their clients change how they think.But more than that, our clients need to change how they feel.And there is no quicker way to unlock a strongly-held belief than a well-crafted, carefully delivered reframe.But we all know that’s easier said than done.To be effective, a reframe must:1.Connect with the client’s current reality (rather than the practitioner’s!).2.Be delivered at the right time (this is such an important factor, but rarely discussed).3.Present a new reality that is just as acceptable, but makes them feel good instead of bad.4.Present a new reality that is so much more compelling than the old, more restricted way of perceiving their reality.5.Change the way the client feels, not just the way they think.
• This is a subtle point that is often missed when so called “cognitive reframing” is used.That beautiful moment when you watch a reframe work its magic…We’ve all attempted reframes and had them fall flat.
• It’s a gut-wrenching moment as you realise you’ve made it harder to get a therapeutic gain because you’ve raised your client’s unconscious defences.But then you know that beautiful moment when a reframe ‘sticks’.